Simple Thoughts

This discussion was led to me through Parthi’s Are brown parents against their child’s happiness? Sorry Parthi I always end up taking your ideas! didn’t mean to… but I guess you are more creative than me this is somewhat related, and somewhat not… since Parthi mentions about passion in his… ~ this is actually for you out there….

Ever since I was a child, my parents quite let me decide what to do, what to pursue, no matter how outrageous, which I am totally proud and happy to say. Unlike most of my Chinese friends, I was so called “pampered” I was not spoiled, oh no, not spoiled, just pampered. I could express what I thought how I liked when I liked just as long as I knew the discussion wouldn’t end up in a fight (such as moral issues) but besides these issues I am not able to express, I was basically in charged of my life. I guess just similar to Parthi’s White family, he wrote in his article. I think this was due to the fact that my mom’s parents gave her the freedom she needed, what courses she wanted to take, she was trained in an environment where, you were not allowed to spend money on clothes, jewelry, and anything they deemed useless, but was granted to all the ‘funds’ from my grandfather when she dealt with anything educational such as: books, any form of instrument playing, anything that actually taught you something. So, as a courtesy, she gave me the freedom to choose what I want, to live the life I want (as long as it didn’t fall into any wrong paths)

but going back to the real discussion, I firmly believe that all parents want to give their kids the best life. In Parthi’s Brown Parent’s case, they fear that he would choose a wrong career, which would prevent him from having a prosperous wealthy life in the future, and thus push him to choosing what they think would bring him a good life after school. So people, who have annoying pesky parents, please, I hope you realize that your parents do love you that way, cherish it!

Although in the near future, the white lady’s son would be happy, but let’s say… what if his desired job gets him no where? than… would he blame his mom for not warning him? or would he still say “Thank you mother, for letting me choose this path?”

either way… Parents I am sure, love you but I guess they just express it differently